Quantum Neuro Reset Therapy: A Cutting-Edge Healing Tool to Support Your Wellness

If you’ve ever wondered why you want to eat well, but continue to get derailed, let me explain. I built my practice around my passion of supporting people who are stuck in this exact rut. We certainly aren’t lacking enough “how to” information in our culture. So clearly it’s not a lack of information around nutrition, even though I know it can be confusing at times for some people to understand which foods are best for their unique body.

There’s something more to the equation of healthy eating…our emotions. You may have noticed that when you’re exhausted and stressed from a day’s work, you probably aren’t very interested in a salad. Or when you have an argument with your partner, you might not want to snack on an apple. People don’t tend to choose healthy foods when they’re feeling angry, hurt or frustrated. What’s interesting to notice is how processed foods like potato chips, mac & cheese and cookies shift your attention away from the uncomfortable feeling. Most people are afraid to feel their emotions so they distract themselves with habits such as overworking, over scheduling, over achieving or getting mindlessly involved in emotional drama, Facebook or their phone.

Not only is our quality of food negatively impacted by our emotions, but so is the quantity of food we consume. Eating too much food can dampen your current negative emotion, only to leave you with a new disappointing emotion such as shame or guilt. Again, people often eat too much so they don’t have to feel their emotions or subtle beliefs about themselves or be present with their current life situation. Other people may avoid emotions in other ways such as restricting food and not allowing themselves to eat when they’re hungry. Most people aren’t aware of their emotional avoidance until they start to observe their patterns. I believe most people eat unhealthy not because they don’t know how to eat healthy, but because they are avoiding negative thoughts/feelings/beliefs/fears or traumas based in the past. Science has recently discovered these painful memories and beliefs are stored in the body.

Emotional pain and negative self beliefs get formed when we experience difficult circumstances or events which can be called trauma. Everyone has experienced trauma to varying degrees. Trauma is when something difficult happens to you and it doesn’t get fully expressed or emotionally resolved so it’s stored in the body. It can be an ongoing situation or a one-time event. Let me share a couple of examples of what trauma can look like so you can recognize it in your own life. It does not need to feel like a significant event to you for the negative energy to be stored in your body.

  • An ongoing experience of parents being distracted and not present with you
  • Kids making fun of you at school
  • Transitions of any kind such as changing schools, getting laid off or fired, moving to a new city/state/country
  • Getting divorced or parents divorcing
  • Growing up in poverty or experiencing financial insecurity
  • Being criticized
  • A parent making negative comments about you either overtly or subtly
  • Feeling like you don’t fit in with your peers
  • Not getting your emotional or physical needs met
  • Not being able to fully express your feelings in childhood or adulthood
  • Any physical, sexual or emotional abuse
  • Making a mistake and getting in trouble for it (or not)
  • Experiencing a break up with a partner
  • Losing a friend
  • Witnessing violence
  • Physical pain or injury
  • Surgery
  • Losing a loved one
  • Being separated from someone you love

I could list many more examples, but hopefully you understand it doesn’t have to be something significant for a subtle, negative thought, feeling, belief or fear to form and adversely impact your nervous system. It’s important to move trauma out of your body so it becomes easier to have a healthy relationship with yourself and food. When you begin to experience more ease, you can choose foods that feel right for your body versus eating (or not eating) to cover up uncomfortable emotions like shame, fear or anger. Eating well should ideally feel easy and natural.

I am passionate about helping men and women find a way off of the roller coaster ride of dieting and restricting. That’s why I’m very excited to be adding Quantum Neuro Reset Therapy to my practice. QNRT is a science-based healing tool for the nervous system and brain. It’s a cutting-edge, therapeutic technique that pulls trauma (hard things that have happened in your life) out of the body so that you can experience more ease and calmness. Science shows that when difficult things happen in our life, negative energy patterns can be stored in the nervous system and brain, creating fear, anxiety, sadness and the inability to move forward.

QNRT resets are an optional part of any session you schedule with me starting in June 2019. Resets will take approximately 20 minutes or less of a 60-minute session. I’ve been delighted with the positive results I’ve seen in myself and in my clients who have utilized this technique with other practitioners. It has made it easier for them to apply the changes I recommend for healthy eating and living. Something interesting to note is when you experience trauma in your life, it covers up your gifts such as freely expressing love, having a witty sense of humor or passionately pursuing a creative talent.

I hope this article gives you hope that you can change the way you eat and care for yourself. The reason you haven’t been able to eat well is not because you lack willpower or discipline, it may be because you have emotional pain stored in your body that you’ve been working hard to avoid. QNRT is an effective, easy and results-oriented way to heal. You will still need to follow through on the action steps I recommend to improve your health, but it won’t feel as challenging. QNRT, along with the support of a therapist and holistic nutrition counselor, is a powerful combination to help you heal, grow and evolve your body, mind and spirit.

What Self Care REALLY Is!

A client shared this blog post with me and I couldn’t resist sharing it with you. It helped her to get clear on what we’ve been talking about in session which is not eating through her emotional discomfort/problems, but instead, learning how to care for herself in a way that feels great so she doesn’t need to soothe with sugar and gluten.

Kudos to this author for helping people get clear on what self care REALLY is…….Enjoy!

What does Your Body have to Say?

Your body has LOTS of opinions. ‘She’ (or he) has certain foods she enjoys. She has different types of movement she prefers such as hiking in nature or maybe taking a yoga class. Learning to tune into your unique body is profoundly helpful if you’d like to learn how to take better care of ‘her’.

Many people are angry at their body for not looking a certain way or having more energy. But is it ‘her’ fault or is she doing the best she can with the raw materials that you’re giving her?

It’s valuable to begin to realize that your body does communicate with you all of the time with feelings, health symptoms and moods. A client of mine answered the question, “If your body could talk to you, what would ‘she’ say?” My client gave me permission to share her insightful answer below.

“Sometimes you’re really nice to me and other times you really beat me up. Sometimes you let me rest, recover and just be. Other times you put me into hyper-overdrive with coffee, alcohol and spicy food. I think you’re starting to see me; know that I’m real and living and have feelings. I know you think I’m an inanimate object, so I’m glad you’re starting to think about me more and even talking to me sometimes. I work hard every day to support you. I repair things sometimes with very little to work with. I nurtured two babies and delivered them to you safely. I know we had trouble with baby #2, but I think you see that I still did a good job with him.

I know you’re trying to exercise and lose weight. I have noticed you are sending more nutrient-dense foods down. Sometimes, too, I’ve noticed you don’t overwhelm me with tons of food or drink. I’ve also appreciated the extra water you’ve been sending, I could use more of that.

I’m not mad at you. I love being your home. I get to see and experience so many interesting things. Your heart is the best of all. At times, your heart sends down radiant beams of light, it’s like a beautiful, magical temple in here when that happens. I love when your heart opens up!

One request: if you are able to let me know when you are about to do something like not eat, exercise super hard, get really stressed out, please let us know. It will help me prepare for those periods when I know I’m on my own and will need to keep things going with no extra resources for that period. I am in your corner. I know you are doing important things in the world. Love, Your Body”

I wonder what your body would say if she/he answered this question?

A Glimpse into a Client’s Experience

I’d like to give you a glimpse into a client’s experience while working with me. This client allowed me to anonymously use her email for the purpose of sharing more about this work. Each client’s journey is unique because each person’s relationship with food is unique. This may not be your story, but it will give you a doorway into holistic nutrition therapy. This work is deep, healing and spiritual.

My client’s email………..

“First of all, I read all of Love Warrior (by Glennon Doyle Melton) already and I feel like it’s the food I needed to eat, because I can’t stop thinking about it. Do you have any more books you can recommend to me?

I’m being brave and journaling tonight on why I keep eating foods that don’t make me feel good. I kept asking myself questions like, “What am I afraid to feel?” and “How does the food “help” me? (of course it doesn’t really help). I feel like I need these layers (extra tissue on my body) to protect me because I’m so sensitive. 

But then I got to thinking: my sensitivity is so rare, and I should try to share it with the world instead of hide it from almost everyone. Because the world needs more people like me. And that the painful things (like trying to not eat foods that make me feel icky) are the invitations that Glennon talked about. And answering those invitations means walking through fire. And by walking through the fire, I lose a layer of protection that I just don’t need anymore. Now it’s obvious that every time I walk through the fire, no matter how small, I lose a layer that I don’t need.

I need to think about my layers in a different way now. The layers are not my enemy. They are here because I need them right now. So until I walk through the fire, I need to love the layers and appreciate the layers because they are here until I’m strong enough to walk through the fires.”

My email response to this client…….

“Your insights are profound….they are so profound that I wish I could come up with a stronger world than ‘profound’. 

I’m delighted that Love Warrior resonated with you. I thought it would. You actually don’t need any intellectual knowledge from a book right now. I invite you to soak in this new awareness and keep it VERY close to your heart. It’s easy to step into this space of wisdom and awakening and then get busy with life and lose it. Stay in it by journaling, feeling, and any other way you can think of. It’s that important. It was so brave of you to journal why you’re eating food that does not serve you. Understand everything you can about this pattern. It’s important for you to intimately understand what happens in those moment. Be ‘awake’ in those moments with zero shame. The shame will block your learning. I’m not suggesting you eat sugar on purpose, just be awake the next time an intense craving arises.

Yes, you have a rare, unique gift of sensitivity, feeling and wisdom. And you hide it and aren’t quite sure how to be with it. That’s ok, Life will show you as you grow. I can’t remember if I shared this with you or not, but Heather Roan-Robbins (located 2 minutes from my office) is an amazing astrologer, intuitive and spiritual coach. In just a couple of sessions, she teaches sensitive people how to protect their energy and have energetic boundaries with others. It would be an amazing gift to yourself. Here’s her online booking if and when it feels right for you. She’s a lovely, gifted woman and her prices are fair.

Yes, every time you choose to feel an uncomfortable feeling versus eat low-quality food, it is literally like walking into the fire. And what I know about you that you don’t know yet is that you’re way more powerful than you realize. You have what it takes to walk through the emotional fires. And keep in mind, Life is only asking you to walk through one ring of fire in any moment. You don’t have to do more than that. And when you do, be SOOOO proud of yourself. Make it a BIG deal. Your brain has a story about how difficult walking through the fire will be, but I invite you to drop that story and notice what the experience is actually like. Please know that any type of layered change (quality, quantity or taking a pause) is ‘walking through the fire.’

I LOVED how you realized that the layers are here to help you until you don’t need them anymore. You don’t need to go to war with them. In fact, it would be nice if you’d thank them for being there until you were ready to walk through the fire.

Also, I want to comment on the world needing your gifts. YES!!!! Life is asking you to grow because the planet is at a critical time. It needs people to be the Light and heal themselves. Those who are ‘awake’ to their gifts are desperately needed right now. And please know that healing yourself is the most profound action you can do to heal the world, because if you think about it, nobody can do the healing work for you. That’s why it’s so important for us all to do our own work. That is what heals the world.

Also, I do have a book recommendation for you if you didn’t buy it already. Life Changing Foods by Anthony Williams. It’s amazing and VERY motivating. It makes you want to eat fruits and vegetables because he explains the amazing healing properties in them.

Stay in this awareness and insight. You knocked it out of the park!” 

 

The Connection of Trauma & Illness

One of the reasons I chose to become a licensed therapist was because I knew there was an intimate link between trauma and illness. Please know that ‘trauma’ has a wide spectrum, meaning it could be a parent not being attentive to their child’s needs or it could be subtle verbal abuse or violent physical abuse. It’s a situation or experience that interrupts your sense of worthiness and trust in the world. This article will help you connect the dots with how trauma and illness are connected.

I notice in my practice that people often feed and care for themselves based on how they feel about themselves. For example, if a person does not feel worthy, they probably are not going to prioritize their self care.

Know that when you work with me you get the whole package…you get not only excellent knowledge and support around whole foods eating but also tender, gentle care around your past traumas and emotional challenges that keep you stuck in a rut and not able to improve your health.

Trauma can be healed. Getting support can be a first step in living a more joy-filled, healthy life.

Article:

Childhood trauma leads to lifelong chronic illness — so why isn’t the medical community helping patients?

 

Sample Program Material

I thought it might be helpful for you to read an excerpt from the program binder that you would receive as part of your 4-month program. This sample material will give you a better understanding of the work so that you can decide if this approach is a good fit for you.

Why You’ve Invested in this Program

You probably decided to invest in this program because you want to experience a change in how your body and your life looks and feels. Some people want to lose weight, others need to gain weight and still others don’t care as much about the weight, they just want to feel better. By upgrading the way you eat and how you care for yourself, you have tremendous potential to create positive changes in your life.

This Program is Unique

This program is unique in that it will address both the physical and emotional side of your health. Keep in mind that you want to find a way of eating and caring for yourself that’s satisfying so that you want to continue it. The goal with eating is to truly feel satisfied. Many people try diets that help them lose weight, but they are unsatisfying and their cravings are so intense that they eventually quit and then they revert to their old way of eating and put the weight, plus a couple extra pounds, right back on.

It’s important that you understand how this journey is different from what you may have done in the past. Many people have been on diets. I’d say one of the characteristics that most people associate with a diet is willpower. The downside to using willpower to improve your health is that willpower often has a negative, depriving quality to it. It’s pushy and demanding. And it’s not sustainable. Nobody stays on a diet for years. Instead they keep searching for a new way of eating that they hope will finally lead them to the change they’re seeking. I’m going to invite you to explore a sustainable, gentle and effective approach to improving your health that is grounded in love.  (Gentleman, stay with me, this applies to you too!).

Love, not Willpower

Self love, a transformational energy, will help you improve your health. Love is an ACTION. We tend to think of love as static, meaning “yes, I love myself or my partner.” But love is also an action that we decide to take based on how we feel. Consider a couple who says they love one another, but they don’t treat each other respectfully, they aren’t affectionate, and they rarely do anything for the other person. That’s not how love acts. But interesting enough, many people treat themselves this way.

For example, how many men and women, either don’t eat breakfast at all or if they do, they just grab something convenient and processed, they power through their morning running on coffee, they mindlessly eat their frozen lunch with a Diet Coke, and then grab some low-quality food from the vending machine around 3:00pm. When they get home from work they eat crackers and cheese standing up at the counter, then devour several large handfuls of chips, and finish with a couple of cookies. Then they feel guilty, throw themselves on the couch to watch some TV they don’t care about while their thoughts start to ruminate on beating themselves up for eating poorly yet again. They numb out in front of the TV, go to bed late only to be awakened by a loud, demanding alarm asking them to do it all again. This isn’t love. This is an unconscious, unkind way to treat yourself. Even if this isn’t your same scenario with food and self care, you probably can notice some patterns of neglect that you have in your daily life whether it’s lack of movement, not enough joy, too much work, etc.

If you feel a bit nervous about exploring unconditional self-love, you’re not alone. Many people find this a brand new concept and feel uncomfortable with it. I’ll help you understand and apply this concept at a pace that challenges you, but does not overwhelm you.

Eating Processed Foods is Not Love

When I suggest a person is going to improve their health by applying greater self-love, they get confused and think they can just eat that second piece of cheesecake or go through the drive-through window because that is being kind to themselves because they are feeling stressed and tired. Let me be VERY clear. It’s not love to eat food that damages your body. That’s actually abusive. Loving yourself does not mean eating processed foods and skipping the gym. It means getting in touch with what you’re truly craving and actually giving that to yourself. Not because you ‘should’ but because you’re choosing to care for yourself. You might truly be craving a delicious, whole foods meal, more connection with friends, you may desperately need more sleep or you may want to spend time exploring a creative activity you used to enjoy.

Everything is Food

I’m suggesting you begin to tune into what your body is truly craving. This takes time and patience. I will support you in creating this awareness. When you’re having an intense craving for sugar and processed foods, know that isn’t what your body actually wants, that is an addiction (studies show sugar is as addictive as heroine!). People often have intense cravings for sugar or processed foods because their body is not getting the quality food it needs and/or it is helping them to numb an uncomfortable feeling.

What I know is that the body was made to run on real food from nature. And when it doesn’t get these nutrients, health doesn’t go well. But let’s expand our definition of food in a way that helps you get what you need from this program. Here’s a concept that is probably new to you. EVERYTHING IS FOOD. What do I mean by that? We are ‘feeding ourselves’ with other things besides food. For example, if you have a passion in your life like knitting, hunting, sewing or competing in a sport, that is food. Meaning it’s feeding you with joy and satisfaction. We are meant to have lives that satisfy and fulfill us. Interesting concept, huh? When we aren’t getting what we need in life, often we’ll reach for something else to fill that void, such as food. Food wasn’t meant to fill the gaps in our lives by making us feel less bored or happier. That being said, it’s so important to get pleasure from your food and thoroughly enjoy it, but if that is your only pleasure in life, it’s going to be more difficult to change your habits with food. So in this program we will be talking about ways to ‘nourish’ yourself separate from food.

Why Do You Want to Be Healthier?

Many people use the word ‘should’ when they talk about eating and exercising. I invite you to approach this in a more self-satisfying way. Get in touch with WHY you want to be healthier. Is it because you want to have more energy for your kids or grandkids? Is it because you are passionate about your work and want to have more energy to invest in it? Is it because you feel like you’re not really living your life because you feel shame around your body? You’ll see in this first binder tab that I’m going to ask you to write why you want to invest your time and energy into improving your health. You don’t have to do this work. You get to do this work for reasons that mean something to you.

Tangible Steps for Building a Healthier Life

This article by Experience Life Magazine is excellent! It offers many valuable resources on improving your health. And what you’ll notice is that health encompasses much more than eating well and exercising. The “Skills and Know-How” section is a great way to access where you are currently with many important aspects of your health.

 

Your Needs and Desires Matter

When someone starts a diet (which I don’t recommend), they focus on what they can’t have. That usually doesn’t feel very good.

I’d like to offer a unique, effective, loving approach to upgrading the way you eat. Start to notice what you want more of in your life and give yourself that. Sound dangerous? Well let me clarify something very important. I hear many stories of people ‘rewarding’ themselves with sugar and processed carbs because they ‘deserve it’. Interesting…..does that mean they deserve more pounds, more guilt, more stomach aches, etc.? There is nothing loving and kind about eating processed foods that don’t nourish you. It’s actually being really unkind to yourself. I’m not overlooking the 5 or 10 minutes of relief or joy people feel from eating a Snickers bar from the vending machine, but those feelings don’t last, do they?

I invite you to dig deeper, much deeper. Allow yourself to explore what you want more of in your life. I am so fortunate to work with some amazing clients who do the work necessary to change their relationship to food. These people start treating themselves kinder, exploring their long forgotten creative side, engaging in dating, allowing themselves more fun, rest and relaxation. And guess what? They start to eat more whole foods.

People often reach for food that doesn’t serve their health because there are unmet needs in their life. Some people want to deepen their spiritual practice or relationship with others, but they ignore these callings and eat sugar instead. I’ve been doing this work for 9 years and I see amazing results when people begin to create a life they enjoy and treat themselves with a deeper kindness and respect. The results are that they are able to change the way they eat without pain and deprivation. When they get more of what they need in life, they stop using food to stuff the uncomfortable feelings they have from not meeting their heart’s desires.

More discipline, self-hate and deprivation won’t create lasting results in your health. It instead creates a roller coaster of painful emotions and intense shame for continuing to gain the weight back.

Ask yourself, what are you truly craving in life?

Sugar Cravings

Food is Medicine

My Mom recently heard this interview on Minnesota Public Radio and called me to let me know I had to listen to it. I’m so glad I did. This podcast features Mark Hyman, director of the Cleveland Clinic Center for functional medicine, James Gordon, executive director of the Center for Mind-Body Medicine at the Georgetown Medical School, and Penny George, the board chair of the Penny George Institute Foundation which supports the work of the Penny George Institute for Health and Healing in Minneapolis.

They discuss how real food, social connection, time in nature and connecting to something greater outside of yourself (spirituality) are key components in healing. It’s such a hopeful perspective on how these leaders in holistic health are making significant changes in how we get well.

I especially appreciated their shared perspective that an illness is an invitation and a doorway into a healthier, more satisfying life if we are open and willing to do our work in healing.

I invite you to download this today and be inspired by the positive change you can create in your life.

 

Sassy Spoon Restaurant

I came across a restaurant that serves naturally raised, local meat, whole fats AND everything they offer is gluten-free, so I had to share!

Sassy Spoon, located in the Nokomis neighborhood of Minneapolis, is a gem! My husband and I ate there yesterday and ordered the turkey meatballs and yucca patties….absolutely mouthwatering and delicious!! I believe real food comes from farms and gardens and this is exactly what the owner Tamara  is offering. And there is gluten free beer and wine to enjoy too.

And to take it a step further, this restaurant serves bone broth! It doesn’t get any healthier than that. I hope they get so busy they need to open additional locations. Healthy food can taste amazing and she’s making that happen!

Tell your friends and make time to visit this establishment. Show your support for healthy, local, real food!