Case Study: Finding Her Voice

Let me first share what a QNRT session with me looks like. In the hour I am working with a client, we spend 20 minutes checking in to see how they’re feeling (therapy), several minutes of me using a cold laser along with muscle testing and the QNRT protocol to find the particular trauma that their body wants to release, me sharing the age and emotions that were found during my testing, and then the client and I working together, using muscle testing, to determine what situation or event these emotions correlate to. I am very specific in finding the meaning behind all of the emotions that surface because the client learns so much about themselves and their patterns. I will also ask them how this past trauma and emotions might relate to what is going on in their life currently. I’d say 85% of the time there is a connection and it’s powerful for them to understand how their past trauma is surfacing today.

We then process the emotions that QNRT presented, I will put words to their trauma and they edit it if needed (they take this information with them), and then the last 5 minutes of the session I do a QNRT reset which includes resetting a point on a particular brain lobe, as well as their nervous system, hypothalamus and cranial nerves. I will give the client homework they can do after the session so that they stay conscious of what they are shifting in their life and also stimulating the new neural pathway QNRT created. QNRT works perfectly without doing the homework, think of it as ‘bonus extra credit’.

What you’re going to read below is the age, emotions and subsequent trauma that was found using the QNRT protocol and the client’s explanation of how the QNRT reset shifted them.

 

Background: Sophia came to me through a referral from a good friend of hers. This is what made her feel open to trying therapy again. When she first started, she was emotionally shut down and didn’t know how to get her emotional needs met in relationships. She would engage in sabotaging relationship patterns versus sharing clear communication from her heart. She would take the temperature of what others thought might be good for her life versus accessing her own desires. She felt the need to caretake other’s feelings at the cost of her own happiness. It’s also important to note that she loved being creative as a kid, but when the trauma started stacking up, she ‘lost’ that side of herself.

She wants to share 10 of her favorite resets that were especially impactful for her. Notice her response to each reset is in quotations below.

QNRT Reset Example 1: Age 19 – Healing the feeling of resentment, disappointment, anger, used, lost and wanting to run from pain

This reset was about trying to recover from an unwanted sexual experience and not being able to have intimacy feel safe anymore. It was about her anger at the person and feeling trapped in these uncomfortable feelings. As many women do, she tried to experiment sexually to heal her pain, but this only made her feel worse.

“This reset helped it to click for me to really pay attention to my body by loving and validating her.”

QNRT Reset Example 2: Age 19 – Releasing the feeling of powerless, fear, unlovable, settling for less and trying to earn love in all of the wrong places

This reset was about being in a relationship with someone who had vastly different motivation levels and accepting so much less than she deserved.

“This reset supported me to finally start to understand that I was worthy of love. This is when I started to let go of the ‘unlovable and unworthy’ belief.”

QNRT Reset Example 3: Age 16 – Releasing the inability to communicate, abandoned, difficulty connecting to others, fear those you love with leave you, loss of love early in life

This reset was about a devastating loss of innocence with an unwanted sexual experience. She also felt abandoned by a friend who should have had her back in this situation.

“This reset helped me to take my power back and not feel that I had to prove I’m loveable.”

QNRT Reset Example 4: Age 28 – Releasing feeling used, not confident, lost and unlovable

She had two resets on the same topic addressing different emotions – Defective, unworthy, disgusted, can’t get rid of

These two resets helped her heal the trauma around adopting a rescue dog who behaved aggressively due to trauma. (The body stores different types of emotions in different parts of the brain, so sometimes a person will have more than one reset on a particular topic.) This left Sophia feeling helpless on how to help her dog. She also had to heal the trauma of not knowing how to get Charlie to not howl when she would leave the house. She ultimately had to rehome the dog which was devastating.

“These two resets allowed me to forgive myself and release guilt around not being able to help my dog, Charlie. And also feel that it was possible to get another dog in the future.”

QNRT Reset Example 5: Age Birth to 1 – Healing from taking on her Mother’s feelings of resentment, frustration, feeling lost, feeling like her current situation defined her, and allowing her emotions to keep her from going after what she wanted

Often when you have a reset during this early period of life, it’s about taking on a parent’s feelings which is of course overwhelming because babies don’t have the capacity to process intense emotions by themselves. And interestingly, Sophia took on the same pattern with men as her Mom. She allowed a relationship to be on her partner’s terms versus asking to get her needs met.

“This reset was the start of my being more empowered to stand up for myself and feel comfortable voicing my feelings and desires.”

QNRT Reset Example 6: Age 20 – Releasing jealousy, lack of confidence, lost, questioning self, angry, thinking she can please everyone, not being able to express herself

This reset was about her feeling excluded by her family on trips, like she didn’t matter and belong. She didn’t know at the time how to ask for what she needed so she made up stories about not being valued and then showed up angry and resentful towards her family.

“I started to notice when I was feeling uncomfortable and was able to start voicing my feelings in a healthy way.”

QNRT Reset Example 7: Age 16 – Releasing the inability to let go, feeling trapped and anxious

This reset was around an unwanted sexual experience that made her feel completely overwhelmed and unsafe in her body and in her surroundings. She felt hypervigilant around her safety and this continued long into adulthood. She felt she had to do things ‘right’ in order to be safe.

“This reset allowed me to leave my house with more ease and feeling more confident about what I wanted and showing up in a way that felt authentic to me.”

QNRT Reset Example 8: Age 13 – Releasing anger, feeling used and unable to take the action she needed to

This was about her experience of being depressed and feeling like nobody cared enough to notice she was suffering, including herself. She was stuck in the belief that she shouldn’t communicate her pain because she should be able to figure it out herself.

“I was able to release the guilt I had been harboring about feeling depressed and was able to ask for help and actually allow people to help me.”

QNRT Reset Example 9: Age 26 – Releasing feeling angry, not confident, blaming others, not being truthful to others, can’t admit mistakes and can’t accept the wrongs I’ve done

This was about being dishonest with someone she cared about because she didn’t know how to get her needs met any other way. She was scared and not sure how to have a real, vulnerable conversation and voice her needs.

“This reset gave me an even deeper release of my old ways of showing up in relationships. This reset allowed me to be more calm, open and willing to have hard conversations even when it’s uncomfortable.”

QNRT Reset Example 10: Age 29 – Releasing resentment, lack of confidence, and not able to accept what doesn’t work in my life

This reset was about having to learn a new role remotely during Covid from someone who was a terrible teacher. She felt it was about her lack of ability even though anyone would have struggled in this situation.

“This reset allowed me to actually feel excited about seeking out a new career path that feels right for me.”

Sophia’s Response about QNRT Therapy: “I was scared for years of going to therapy. My first experience was going to a school counselor in junior high after a boyfriend told on me for cutting myself. I saw that first counselor once just before he retired and then I went to see the female counselor who took over for him, a couple times and even though I liked her fine enough, I didn’t go back after that.

I felt scared and misunderstood and didn’t feel comfortable telling a stranger what was going on with me when I didn’t fully understand what was going on with me. I also didn’t want to be seen going to the counselor’s office by anyone at school – more pre-conceived judgment.

For years after, the thought of going to therapy scared me because I didn’t want to be judged for things I’d done/been through, which only accumulated and felt “bigger” as the years went on. I got comfortable with being uncomfortable, so I stuck with what I knew and let fear dictate how I showed up.

After a romantic relationship of mine fell apart back in early 2022, I moved back to Saint Paul and I finally had a sincere desire to change my ways. I recognized there were things that I could’ve done better, my inability to speak up was at times so paralyzing because of my extreme discomfort in talking about hard stuff. I knew I could be a better version of myself and I really wanted to get better.

Over the years I’d occasionally get curious about finding someone to talk to, but the idea of finding someone who I would be comfortable with was so daunting. I didn’t want to work with just anyone. Having the referral from a friend of mine and seeing/hearing firsthand what QNRT did for someone who I loved and trusted, helped me to feel safe to work with Maggie. I somehow knew I didn’t want to do just talk therapy, that wasn’t really going to be enough for me, even if I didn’t totally understand what QNRT was all about at the time.

Fast forward TWO YEARS and I still get so excited for every single session (even if I’ve been in emotional heart, the deepest resets, for what feels like forever 😉) because I can feel myself showing up differently. I notice when I’m having big feelings and take the time to understand them. I’m still me, but I’m so much lighter and my creative side came back! I feel like I’ve been unearthing the version of me that I’d ignored and hidden for so many years. I see the patterns that I’ve created and no longer expect myself to be perfect. I have finally started to believe that there is more to me than my traumas, and that my traumas aren’t who I am. The gratitude is endless; I have loved learning more about myself and my body with each new session.”